“Barney: Maybe we should get back to being just friends. Robin: Maybe… but I don’t want to stop having sex. Barney: Oh, good, me neither! (he leans on her to kiss her) Robin: Yeah, friends isn’t gonna work. Barney: Nope. We’re not good at being friends. We’re not good at being in a relationship. What are we good at? Robin: I know something we’re good at. Barney: I don’t know. If we’re gonna do it again we’re gonna need some Gatorades. Robin: No, not that—lying.” How I Met Your Mother, Season 5, Episode 1, “Definitions”
We are surrounded by the expectations of our friends, families, society, and even our own mixture of neuroses. Is it any wonder that so many people are disappointed because their lives are shaken when life doesn’t look like the predefined vision of our expectations?
So how do we keep from self-destructing? In modern society, we can talk openly and honestly with our relations or even go to therapy–although we are haunted by the conditioning and prying eyes around us.
The fear of what others will think leads too much of the entertainment in TV, the movies, and People magazine. But what about in “real life”?
How many relationships world end in pain, heartache, or worse if everyone communicated openly and honestly within their relationships?
While it seems like a modern problem, ask Jane Austen, Catherine the Great, Queen Elizabeth I, any of Henry VII’s wives.
How do we get past the societal expectations and pressures? Can Kate and Petrucchio find a way?